one’s own heart
Of course this all on hinges on you finding and hooking
a veggie mate – or does it?
And it is possible, as Debbie Matthews,
27, from London, knows: “My partner Terrence (21) is
now vegan. When I met him he was a steak-loving South African
meat-eater, and I was vegan and a vocal animal rights activist.
The night I met him at a party, he said in a big loud voice
at a table of about 10 people ‘why are you vegetarian?’,
which produced a barrage of harassment from his male friends ‘don’t
you just crave a big plate of bacon?’ type stuff.
It took about one year for him to go veggie and he went vegan
quickly after that, though he’s a pretty open-minded
guy. I basically shared a lot of info with him, he watched
AR videos with me etc and he made up his own mind. I made
it clear I didn’t want him eating meat around me, and
he did kiss me once after eating meat which was disgusting
so I stopped seeing him for a few weeks after that. But he
is now an activist as well and we both go to animal rights
protests together. It’s really cool!”
Jo Randall, 33, knows how she feels: “When
I met my partner Simon (33) I was in my early twenties; shy,
lacking in confidence and strong in only one area – my
vegetarianism. He wasn’t a vegetarian but we fell for
each other anyway and I was swept away. A few months along
the line he announced that he would like a vegetarian meal
the same as me...and has never eaten meat since! To me it
was a wonderful omen and we were engaged within the year.
I’ve had to put up with people commenting that I ‘made’ Simon
go vegetarian, but this was never the case as we were too
wrapped up with each other during our precious weekends to
discuss important environmental issues like that!
“We have now been married for nine years and live
in beautiful Devon with our small menagerie of rescue animals.
Three years ago Simon himself suggested that with our ethics
and strong feelings on the subject we should become vegan,
and that’s what we did that very day. We have been
very happily vegan since that time, and even our families
are used to the idea now. Eating is now a wonderful and creative
hobby instead of a dull necessity!
“If Simon had remained a carnivore, I don’t
know how our relationship would have worked after the first
mad flush of love had settled down. The thought now of kissing
anyone who has just eaten bits of dead animal is sickening.
As it is I have found my perfect soul-mate; someone who is
compassionate, environmentally aware, kind, thoughtful, full
of love and a true friend of the planet...he truly is my ‘Mr
Not many stories from men there but poet Benjamin Zephaniah
says it all: “A vegan kiss is really special,
a vegan kiss is where it’s at, a vegan kiss is very
luving, for it contains no animal fat.”
Are you a veggie or vegan trying to make
things work with a meat-eating partner? Or maybe you’ve
managed to convert your other half? Are you soooo much in
love you don’t mind a smacker from someone’s
choppy chops? Or are you single and (im)patiently waiting
for your veggie Prince/ss Charming to come along? Whatever
your love story, Viva! wants to hear from you. Tell your
tale to Michelle: firstname.lastname@example.org
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